The identity crisis of the elderly can be controlled by learning skills and self-care

The geriatric psychologist, emphasizing that calendar age is not a comprehensive measure of human dynamics, considered it necessary to maintain independence and mental health in old age.

According to Ambassador Arjan, quoted by the Analytical News Site of Radio Talk, the program "Ask Me" was aired on the subject of psychology of aging, from acceptance to quality of life, with the presence of Homa Mardan, an geriatric psychologist.

Homa Mardan, explaining the position of old age in the pyramid of human growth, stated: Old age never means stagnation or the end of activity, but it is considered the peak of mental and spiritual perfection and the accumulation of lived experiences; Even in a situation where the physical strength declines to some extent, a person can experience a very high quality of life with adaptation, medical care and strengthening inner peace.

Referring to the division of old age periods, he added: In the health patterns of the country, people aged 65 and over are considered elderly, which are divided into three groups: young elderly from 65 to 75 years old, middle-aged elderly and old elderly; Most of the young elderly have high vitality and energy, and the society should provide a platform for benefiting from these social capitals by providing elderly-friendly infrastructure.

In response to a question about the isolation caused by the lack of a life partner in the elderly, this psychologist clarified: the experience of losing a spouse is a deep loss that confronts a person with an identity crisis and extreme loneliness; Boredom, crying, and aggression in the first months are a natural part of the mourning process, and those around you should not consider these reactions abnormal or try to impose hasty plans on the elderly.

He considered maintaining individual independence and tolerance as the key to interacting with the elderly and noted: The biggest mistake against the elderly is imposing their wishes or violating their autonomy under the pretext of compassion. Families should recognize his feelings with empathy and instead of forcing him to leave home, they should be with him in a relaxing environment in order to reduce the feeling of loneliness.

Men about restoring the motivation to live to the depressed elderly reminded: restoring the sense of worth and efficiency is the most effective healing medicine at this age; Children can keep their identity role alive by handing over light responsibilities, consulting in family matters and emphasizing the position of father or mother; Also, if the symptoms of depression persist for more than 6 months, the simultaneous accompaniment of a psychiatrist and a psychologist will be helpful in improving the quality of life of the elderly.

Retirement should not mean stopping and seclusion

Analyzing the psychological consequences of the beginning of the retirement period, he said: Employment plays an essential role in defining the social identity of people, and the sudden interruption of this connection can bring a sense of emptiness, boredom and a feeling of being a burden in the home environment.

This psychologist, in an interview with Radio Talk, stated that this crisis challenges family relationships and peace of mind, and added: People should know that retirement is not the end of the activity, but rather the beginning of pursuing goals and interests that were not available during the service.

He pointed to his proposed plan to prevent crises at this stage and reminded: Government organizations and employer institutions are required to conclude preparation courses and skill memoranda with technical and professional centers at least two to five years before the retirement date of the troops.

Mardan clarified: With this mechanism, employees acquire skills in alternative professions according to their personal desire, and after finishing their official service, they enter into new or entrepreneurial activities with motivation.

He considered the phenomenon of self-neglect as a serious harm in old age and noted that: self-care is a key element in mental health and the elderly should play an active role in taking care of their physical and mental health in addition to the care they receive from their families.

This psychologist stated: Paying attention to regular sleep, drinking enough water, daily movement and doing small and hopeful things like taking care of flowers and plants or studying and praying, prevents the analysis of spiritual powers.

Regarding the importance of social relations and curbing the isolation of the elderly, he added: maintaining contact with old friends, participating in local gatherings and family get-togethers has a therapeutic role.

Mardan emphasized: Children and grandchildren should maintain intergenerational communication with patience and respect, and convey a sense of value and presence to the elderly through video calls and daily conversations, even if the distance is far.

He pointed out the need to make the living environment of the elderly safe and said: installing handles in the bathroom and toilets, removing slippery carpets and paying attention to the proper lighting in the space will prevent physical accidents and psychosomatic injuries.

This psychologist emphasized: Taking advantage of the wisdom and valuable experiences of retirees and the society's view of them as powerful veterans is a guarantee of the dynamism and social health of the country.