Children's mental health becomes a victim of adults' perfectionism

One of the most important needs of children to learn is the feeling of psychological security, and this feeling is formed when the child can talk about his thoughts, feelings and mistakes without fear of humiliation and blame.

According to Ambassador Arjan's report, on Monday, under the pretext of Children's Week, Azam Rabieikia said in an interview with Ambassador Arjan's reporter, "One of the most important needs of children to learn and grow is a sense of psychological security, and this feeling is formed when a child can talk about his thoughts, feelings and mistakes without fear of humiliation and blame." He added: High-quality education does not only mean transferring knowledge, but conditions must be provided so that students can recognize their abilities and strive for progress with peace, hope and a sense of worth.

comparing children; Hidden damage to self-confidence

Stating that comparison is one of the educational challenges in families and schools, this PhD student in general psychology said: Some parents expect their children to always get the best grades or to be successful in all fields; While children differ from each other in terms of talent, interests, learning ability and family conditions. Rabiekia continued: Not all children are supposed to follow the same path or reach the same job and position in the future. The duty of the elders is to know the abilities of each child and to plan for his growth according to his capacity.

He emphasized: When a child is constantly compared with his sister, brother or classmate, he may come to the conclusion that he is not good enough. Such an attitude can reduce his sense of self-worth and affect his motivation to learn and strive.

Emphasizing the need to avoid humiliating students in the educational environment, Rabiekia stated: A child has the right to make mistakes, ask questions and even give wrong answers in some subjects. It is important that the teacher uses this situation to teach and strengthen his abilities. He added: instead of using phrases like "how careless you are" or "why don't you understand", it is better for the teacher to investigate the cause of the problem in a supportive tone and give the student another chance to learn. Pointing to the importance of paying attention to the individual progress of students, this teacher said: All children's abilities should not be evaluated with grades and report cards. The effort, perseverance, communication skills and progress of each student should also be taken into consideration.

From aggression to isolation; Change children's behavior seriously

This PhD student in general psychology pointed out that boredom, lack of concentration, anxiety and aggression can have various reasons: sometimes family problems, personal concerns or learning difficulties affect the student's performance; Therefore, one should not judge the child's behavior without examining the child's condition.

Rabiekia continued: In such a situation, instead of labeling the teacher, he should talk to the student and, if necessary, take help from the family and the school counselor, respecting his privacy. Emphasizing that the diagnosis of psychological problems and disorders should be entrusted to relevant specialists, he added: Behavioral changes in children should not be ignored, but any different behavior is not necessarily a sign of a disorder.

conversation; A way to approach the world of children

Rabiekia said: One of the ways to strengthen the relationship between teacher and student is to allocate time to talk and listen to children's feelings and views. He added: If a student is bored at the beginning of the class or does not want to participate, instead of blaming, the teacher can ask him what made him less focused and if he wants to talk about it.

Stating that intimacy with students does not mean abandoning professional frameworks, this teacher said: while maintaining his authority and responsibility, the teacher can create an atmosphere in which students feel their opinions are heard and have a role in solving class problems.

Children need peace and reassurance in war situations

In another part of this conversation, referring to children's possible concern about the war and its consequences, Rabiekia said: families and teachers should pay attention to children's fears and let them express their questions and concerns. He added: Answering children's questions should be appropriate to their age, honest and far from creating more fear. It is also necessary to prevent children from being exposed to violent images, disturbing news and anxiety-provoking conversations of adults as much as possible.

This Ph.D. student in general psychology emphasized: You should not underestimate a child's feeling of fear or tell him that he has no right to worry; Rather, by listening to his words and providing information appropriate to his age, we should help him feel that he is not alone in the family and school environment.

Teach respect for differences from childhood

Referring to the children's exposure to cultural, social and religious differences in the family and school, Rabieikia said: Children should learn that differences in views do not necessarily mean enmity and that you can respect each other despite differences of opinion. He added: School should be a place where no student is ridiculed or discriminated because of family, cultural or religious differences. Strengthening dialogue, mutual respect and critical thinking helps children learn to question and take responsibility when dealing with different issues.

Children's mental health, a shared responsibility

In the end, emphasizing the role of family and school in the formation of children's personality, Rabieikia said: instead of focusing only on weaknesses, parents and teachers should see children's abilities, give them the opportunity to express their opinions, and evaluate their progress according to their own individual circumstances.

He pointed out: Sometimes a kind look, listening to a child's words for a few minutes or correcting a mistake can be effective in strengthening his sense of security and worth; Therefore, before we expect success from children, we must provide a safe and supportive environment for their growth and learning.